Archive for Self-esteem

Is Nappy Hair a Crime?

Posted in Well-Being with tags , , , on March 19, 2010 by blynsay

I have always tried to put my best foot forward when it came to appearance.  You know; no chipped nail polish, shined my shoes, pressed my clothes well so that I didn’t have “cat tracks”, and took care of those nappy edges.

Since I am in transition from relaxed hair to a natural hairstyle that last hallmark of good grooming has been abandoned.  I have to rest my hair before it is locked and have been admonished by my loctician (with fire in her eyes), not to heat style my hair.  So consequently, I have a few beady-bs goin’ on.  Some people have remarked on my status, to which I told them my story, and they were fine. 

The ones that I am concerned for are those who either refuse to make eye contact, as if they are witnessing something shameful or those who really want to ask me what the h_ll is going on.  Some have touched my hand and told me in hushed tones, “We all have been there and you will come through”.  I muttered thank you and looked puzzled, and then I realized it was the hair! 

I really did not think it looked “that bad”, not bad at all since this is a plan not an accident or a bad hair experience. Nevertheless, thinking back, this is out of character for the old me.  I had to be sick, depressed or something on those lines to come out of the house with the tresses less than perfect.  I have spent many hours perming, dyeing, cutting and styling, chasing after the illusion of being as my Mama called it—presentable!

That is so sad!  Is presentable the most that a nappy headed child could hope for? Are the adjectives beautiful and lovely reserved only for the sisters with the less tense tresses or for the short period when your press or perm are fresh?  Maybe in another time and place, but today I reclaim my right to be beautiful, nappy hair and all!  I just wish I had done it sooner and gotten my “get out of hair-jail free card” a long time ago.

Therefore, for those who love me and are concerned and those who are nosy but too polite to ask, here is the deal—

  1. I am fine
  2. No, I will not look like this forever, as my lock date is 04/07/10, and I will have a whole new look for you to ponder about
  3. Yes, I intend to walk around like this and am not going to hide under hats and scarves for the duration
  4. No, I am not going to apologize for having nappy hair; I am no longer ashamed; it is what God gave me and I will rock it with pride

Whew, that feels good to get that off my chest! 

I am not trying to be belligerent, but I am standing up for my choice and holding my Nappy head High!  This is a time for me to just—be and not concern myself with presentability or acceptance by the mainstream.

I instead choose to be beautiful!


Why am I Here?

Posted in Sisterlocks, Uncategorized with tags , , on March 17, 2010 by blynsay

Hello everyone in the world!

I am so pleased to be here talking (so to speak) to you now!  I chose to blog about my hair care woes and the transformation that I have coming.

I am leaving the world of processed hair and returning to my Nappy Roots! 

Yep, I sure am!

I have struggled for the last time with relaxer, hot combs, flat irons, wet sets, wraps and any other style that takes so much of my precious time, wracked my nerves and never gave me the results that I dreamed about as a little girl waltzing around the living room wearing a towel for hair.

I am moving on to the natural world and installing Sisterlocks in the near future.  I will post for you my pics and let you know just how it goes so that you can share my joy.

Stay tuned and I will get back to you soon!

I had my Consultation!

Posted in Sisterlocks with tags , , on March 17, 2010 by blynsay

I spent 5 hours Friday night and 2 hours Saturday taking down my box braids.  My arms still ache.  My intention had been to have my hair braided again to take me to the last leg of my journey to Sisterlocks.  Why? Because I was afraid to wear my natural hair.

Let’s face it–my hair is cottony and shrinks to a tight, brillo-ey pattern at the first hint of moisture.  I would not be able to heat style my hair before the installation so I thought  I would hide under braids.  That was until I spent precious hours taking them out and dreaded having to do it again in a short amount of time–About 3 weeks!

So I washed my hair, colored the gray and got out the strong blow dryer.  Of course it was a rainy day, and windy so my nice little bob did not stay nice for long.  My hair started to shrink as soon as I left the house, but I was determined to go on.  On to my consultation!

I met with my certified Sisterlocks consultant, Ashlee at Locks4life in Oak Park, Michigan.  The shop was sunny and bright and filled with people with locs in all stages of growth.  There was even a little girl with Sisterlocks to her shoulders, whose mother locked her hair at 2 years old.

Ashlee looked at my hair, explained the process and installed 2 starter locs behind my right ear.  Now, I have had my hair braided many times, most times amidst pain (I am tender-headed).  I expected  much of the same.  But there was no pain.  She was done before I knew it!  Everyday I admire these little locs and am amazed.  Since my consultation, we have had a lot of rain and midst.  My hair has shrunk to a new level of tightness.  But my little starter locs have not changed in shape, exept to curl a little.  This is really promising to me.

Well, I have set my date for installation for April 9.  I have to wait a little because the cost is more than I can shell out just that soon.  But I am going forward and cannot wait for day.

I will post pics soon of the before, the during and the after so you can come along with me.